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The Bible doesn’t have a specific passage dedicated to “How To Be a Pastor’s Wife“, but 2 Corinthians 5:20 certainly gives us some pretty clear direction.

We Are Ambassadors. 2 Corinthians 5:20

As believers, we are God’s representatives on earth. We are here as “a trusted, respected ambassador who is authorized to speak as God’s emissary (represent His kingdom).” (from

We wear many hats in our lives, but none of those trumps or overrides our ambassadorship. We are daughters of a King and we are here to represent Him.We have a very public platform as pastors’ wives and people are watching. Whether we realize it or not, our actions and words influence how others see our King.

How I handle the day-to-day frustrations of life speaks volumes to others about Jesus. Do I let my emotions control me? Is the way I respond when I am attacked (judged, criticized, etc.) an accurate representation of how Jesus responded to His haters? How do I handle it when it’s my husband or children in the line of fire?

We gave up our right to behave like the world – not when we became pastors’ wives, but when we became believers.

What does it take it to be an ambassador of Christ? SURRENDER.

Surrender. The ongoing process of laying down my life at the feet of Jesus. The ongoing process of dying to self takes humility and a deep rootedness in the Word. It’s trusting the Father with the outcome of all that surrender. It’s not always easy. It’s definitely not always fun. But the results of a surrendered life are so worth it!

ACTION STEP: Ask the Holy Spirit where you need to be surrendered and then listen to what He says. He will guide you with gentleness and love so trust Him!

Jacque Garner is a podcaster and blogger with a heart to encourage and inspire pastors' wives. With over 30 years experience being married to a pastor, she understands the joys and challenges that come with this unique calling. She believes that pastors' wives can embrace with joy whatever and wherever ministry takes them as they lean into God, abide in His Word, and allow the Holy Spirit to lead them by the hand. Jacque is a mom to 4 amazing kids, a mother-in-love to 3, and Gigi to 7 practically perfect grandkids.